Understanding relationships and energy points in the body.

Understanding relationships using energy points in the body.

Cognitive Principle Therapy [CPT] is used to help solve relationship problems, using both thinking [logic and common sense] and principles. Groups of principles occur at seven levels in the body and match the flow of energy through those seven points or chakras. The middle of the seven chakras is the Heart Chakra. CPT also incorporates polyvagal theory which states that the autonomic nervous system responds to triggers with a fight, flight or freeze response which was originated in reptiles. Animals developed another autonomic response called "engagement" which is located in the heart. These autonomic responses are either instincts or habits in animals. In humans they can be triggered or understood by reason or with meaning.

Polvagal theory states that the responses are hierarchical, that is, they evolved from lower levels to higher levels eg. Freeze [shutdown like a jelly fish] to Fight or Flight [like a crocodile] to Engagement [like a group of monkeys].

See chart below:

  • Control = Instinct
  • Attachment = Instinct & learned habits
  • Knowledge = Reason or meaning

Cognitive Principle Matrix is based on the following seven levels of principles:

The principles for the Heart: Trust, Respect, Acceptance or Commitment.

If I am a monkey my instinct and the habits that are taught to me are to engage with other monkeys to protect me from predators. I need to:

  • Trust that the other monkeys will be there for me.
  • Respect. I don't want them abusing me.
  • Acceptance. I don't want them excluding me.
  • Commitment. I want them to stand up with me against predators.

One hundred thousand years ago humans were in the middle of the animal hierarchy and relied on the same principles as the monkeys, as they do today.

Understanding relationships:

Firstly, if you are not in control then you will not effectively engage with others or find meaning in your life. If your have control, but are not engaged with others, then you will struggle to find meaning in your life.

Secondly, if you have major unresolved issues growing up or experience a traumatic situation and loose trust, respect, acceptance or commitment, you will have a "control problem." Attachment theory [eg Imago therapy] and Cognitive Principle Therapy states that if  unresolved issues happen in childhood, then you will then:

  • Detach badly from your principle care givers [parents, teachers etc.]
  • Re-attach and find a new partner with the same weakness [eg trust], but the opposite behavior. Eg. A person who is overly trustworthy will find someone who doesn't trust [either themselves or others]. The reason for this is evolutionary, that is, if you accept and learn from each other, your behaviors and thinking will change and your children will be emotionally stronger than you and therefore have a better chance of survival. However, if you fail to accept the other person, you will either stay stuck or split up and find another person who has the same weakness.
  • When you are at you most confident or settled period in your life, eg mid-life, your subconscious mind tries to resolve the issue again. If you fail, you will have a mid-life crisis and feel and act like you did as a child or teenager or whenever the crisis originally occurred.
  • In Cognitive Principle Therapy there are seven levels of attachment related to instincts, habits or meaning:

The "age" in years shown above refers emotional development, not physical age. According to Maslow's "Hierarchy of Needs", you rise above your human nature, which is based on fear and greed and transcend to a spiritual level.

In cognitive principle therapy we help you identified your unresolved issues, explain why you have pick your particular partner and demonstrate how to resolve any negative issues to develop a stronger relationship.


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