FEAR, ANGER, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION?
Under stress your backup personality is activated. That is, switches on your vagus nerve: --Personality type---------------------Trigger--------------Switch on: -----------------------------------------Lack of:--------------------------
1. Overly controlling---------------Trust, respect--------Fight-Anger/Abuse/ overly critical and controlling.
2 Overly responsible--------------Acceptance-----------Fight-Try harder/guilt/shame
3. Overly responsible--------------Acceptance-----------Flight-Escape/anxiousness/panic
4. Overly avoidant-----------------Commitment---------Flight-Confusion/avoidance
5. Overly avoidant-----------------Commitment---------Withdraw or freeze-Numbness, panic attack.
What Cognitive Principle Therapy does is provide awareness and tools to turn off the switch.
If you experience anger, anxiety or depression of then most likely you are emotionally stuck in one of the developmental stages. Erik Erikson's Stages of Development and the Cognitive Principle Matrix:
Age--------------Principle-------Developmental Stage
1. 0-2 years ----- Love/Hope ---Trust v Mistrust
2. 2-4 years -----Acceptance--- Autonomy v Shame
3. 4-5 years ---- Acceptance---- Initiative v Guilt
4. 5-12 years --- Acceptance---- Industry v inferiority
5. 13-19 years - Acceptance----Identity v Role Confusion Relationship.
6. 20-39 years---Love/Giving---Intimacy v Isolation
7. 40-64 years-- Hope----------- Generativity v Stagnation
8. 65-death----- Acceptance----Ego v Despair
At each developmental stage you need trust, respect, acceptance and commitment, otherwise you develop emotional deficits in relating to yourself and others. Your primary personality style will influence your weakness.
