YOU HAVE A GUIDANCE SYSTEM WITHIN YOU.
Don't take things personally, unless it is a physical threat. This is a basic teaching of Cognitive Principle Therapy. A system of handling negative challenges exists within us. Follow that system to solve your problems. When you go outside that it will feel like a personal attack.
Fear= The attack
Criticalness=The evaluation on how to fix the problem.
Confusion= The Head response until it is fixed
Anxiousness=The Heart response until it is fixed
Guilt=A further response if you contributed to the attack